Sep 1 2010

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Guest Post – by Rabia Nusrat

Mrs. Mushtaq
March 23, 1936 – July 19, 2010

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”- Maya Angelou

I had known Mrs. Mushtaq for a long time through Bilal before I actually met her! Such was the special bond  that Bilal shared with his mother and when I met her for the first time, I understood why! My first meeting with her was sort of accidental. Bilal was in Dubai and he hadn’t been able to get through to his mom for a day or two. He called me and asked me to go and check on her and having never met her before, I just showed up at her doorstep. I am not very good at meeting with my friend’s parents but Mrs. Mushtaq was so very affectionate that not for one moment did I feel that I was meeting her for the first time. She had such a peaceful aura around her. The affection continued for all the times that I met her after that. It was just wonderful to be in the company of someone who was so genuine and unpretentious! I also remember the last time I met with her and was so deeply touched by her sincere concern for me and my mother!

Though having met her in person very few times, I got to know a lot about Mrs. Mushtaq through Bilal. She mashallah lived a much fulfilled life, travelling around the world, seeing the accomplishments of her husband and enjoying the love of both her children Bilal and Maryam and her grandchildren. Her courage was inspirational, giving her the strength to see through the thick and thin with a smile.

Mrs Mushtaq, you will be dearly missed by me and by all.

Rabia


May 4 2010

The Kindness of Strangers

Jun was a petite 17 year old Japanese girl, sitting adjacent to me on a flight to Dubai.  As the plane took off, I curled up in my blanket while she sat cross-legged on her flat-bed deeply engrossed in what seemed like a holiday brochure or magazine.  From our brief, and very formal, conversation it seemed she was off on a skiing holiday to Geneva.

As the plane started its descent, I was woken up by one of the flight crew.  “Are you ok?” asked the flight attendant.  I took a minute to explain a neuro-degenerative brain disorder I suffer from, which causes short-term memory loss and high anxiety.  I asked for some water to take my medication and buckled myself for the landing.  “Man, you snore!” announced Jun!  I, again, explained my medical situation to which she was most understanding.

The plane touched down and the passengers disembarked.  I started walking down Dubai’s Terminal 3, towards the immigration counter when I lost my balance, felt dizzy and hit the wall.  At this point my vision was also getting a slightly blurry, so I decided to sit for a while before walking out of immigration.  I sat on the bare tiled/marbled floor which felt ice-cold, wrapped a scarf around myself and closed my eyes.

“Bilal!  Bilal!” echoed through my head and I thought “oh great, another anxiety attack”.  I opened my eyes only to discover Jun standing in front of me.  She had walked back from her transit counter, after having seen me sitting against the wall.  Jun, this carefree teenage girl whom I hardly knew and had never met before, sat down on the bare floor next to me and started asking what was wrong.  I explained my head was spinning, which often happens after I take my meds and that I’d be ok.  “I have a friend in Dubai, who can take you to the hospital if you need” Jun said to which I explained I had a friend waiting outside to drive me to my hotel.  We both sat quietly for a while, after which Jun asked “why aren’t you wearing a watch?”  “Oh, I just don’t like them” I explained.  Jun took off her watch and put it on my left wrist, explaining that with such a condition I need to be wearing a watch so I can pace myself.  “You really don’t have to” I insisted.  “Ok, well, I’ll just sit here .. miss my flight .. and it’ll be your fault”.  I accepted the watch, thanked Jun and we exchanged phone numbers.  We heard Jun’s flight being announced over the intercom and I insisted she get going so as to not miss her flight.  It really felt like Jun didn’t want to leave.  While I was incredibly touched by Jun’s concern and generosity, I just wasn’t in the frame of mind to be able to thank her enough.  I saw Jun walk towards the transit counter, often turning and looking back at me and waving in the most sweetest adolescent way.  That was the last I saw of Jun.

Shortly after I got up and made my way to the immigration counter.  I did not have a friend waiting outside, as I had told Jun.  The hotel had sent a car to pick me up.  On my way to the hotel, a long 45 minute drive thanks to the morning Dubai rush-hour, I kept thinking about Jun.  While I was still somewhat disillusioned from the anxiety attack and didn’t really quite understand what had happened, I was completely awe-struck at the concern Jun had shown.

“Welcome back to the Grosvenor House, Mr. Ahmed!”, said the hotel’s bell-boy as he escorted me to the hotel’s reception.  I checked into my room, sat down, had something to drink and saw the watch Jun had given me.  It looked like a simple watch, with a nice clean dial and a black leather strap.  I put the watch on the night-stand and decided I’d take a nap.  I woke up six hours later and thought I’d call and ask Jun if she had reached safely, and  more importantly, thank her for the concern she had shown.  There was no answer.  “Ok, I must be imagining this”, I said to myself.  I ran over to the night-stand where I had placed Jun’s watch and realized the watch was very much there and not just my imagination.

I was eventually able to get in touch with Jun and we remain close friends.


Apr 13 2010

we’ll get through!

Bilal:  “Sigh!.. this is nice .. the costume situation could be better .. but, this is nice..”
Samia: “so, as cats, we NEVER shave our legs? .. how liberating!”
Zuleika: **coughs** .. “lousy fur-ball!”
Bilal: “I’m hungry .. let’s figure out the grub situation”
Samia: “I ain’t eatin’ no rats and rodents!”
Bilal: “don’t be silly .. we’ll head over to La Marche .. I’ll have chicken liver!”
Zuleika: “why is the neighbor’s dog eye-ing us? .. scram loser! .. we have FANGS!”


Oct 20 2009

Ashtrays

The truth is, everyone you meet will hurt you at one point or another. You just need to decide who is worth the pain.
- Unknown


Feb 1 2009

“Blessed are the hearts that can bend; they shall never be broken.”

This quote is by the famous French playwright, Albert Camus, recipient of the Nobel Prize for Literature (1957).

I just wanted to take a moment to thank ALL my friends, for making my birthday incredibly special.

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Thank-You:
MOM! (Lahore, PK)
Shahinda Sufi (Chicago, USA)
Zuleika and Saashah Chughtai (Dubai, UAE)
Iman & TimTam (Sydney, Australia)
Qaiser & Maryam (Sydney, Australia)
Lyyla Khalid (Lahore, PK)
Rabia Nusrat (London, UK)
Wasif Mullick (Lahore, PK)
Natasha Zubari (New York, USA)
Lucie Chang (Kuwait)
Aisha Tiwana (Paris, France)
Hashim Al-Noor (Jordan)
Hugo Bellurie (Belgium)
Ahmad Al-Nayhan (Abu Dhabi)
Wissam M. (Dubai, UAE)
Sammy (Dubai, UAE)
Fatima (Cairo, Egypt)
Christine (Milan, Italy)
Kate Shahnawaz (London, UK)
Dr. Cranley Lars (Brighton, UK)
Philippe Danielle (Dubai, UAE)
Loraine (GH, Dubai)
Francis M (Dubai, UAE)
Allan (Dubai, UAE)
Kamran Khalid (Lahore, PK)
Waqas Qureshi (Lahore, PK)
Vinny (Dubai, UAE)
Justin (Manitoba, CA)
Dr. Frank Scilio (Dubai, UAE)
Aarij Wasti (Doha, Qatar)
Hassan (Ahmad) Sami (Sacramento, USA)
Aqeel Akbar (Boston, USA)
Azhar & Uzma (Lahore, PK)

You all have rekindled my faith in friendships and relationships!


Jan 30 2009

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Jan 14 2009

How to lose your mind!

I’m sure you’ve all read the famous “How to win friends and influence people”.  For those of you who haven’t, don’t waste your time .. it’s a load of crap!

I’ve taken it upon myself to teach you the MOST important lesson of all .. how to COMPLETELY lose your mind, self-esteem, all direction in life .. develop the weirdest psychological issues, and generally lose hope in relationships, life, etc.

It’s really simple.  Go into business with your best-friend!  Come up with a great idea, share it with your best-friend .. so the mindless dumb-fuck can steal it from you later.  Get an office.  Make sure the office is so SMALL that you have no space to breathe, with your friend constantly breathing down your neck .. disapproving of your decisions .. and, generally, showing you a major attitude.  Be positive about the whole new business set-up, since it does take about six months to really get going and start making money.  Even if your friend/business-partner is down and out about the whole endeavor, take it upon yourself to calm him down.  Don’t be stupid and question any of your friend’s decisions.  Focus on the big picture, while having your friend micro-manage the smallest issues to death.  Keep a professional distance from the other employees in the office, so that they can go up to your friend and bitch about you behind your back.  Never ask for financial statements or any other money-related questions.  In fact, never discuss money or demand your share or rights .. because that just might keep you in business.  Within a year or two, you’ll be making enough money .. and PRESTO! .. your best-friend would have stabbed you in the back .. stolen YOUR idea .. and left you out on the street.

You can then check yourself into the Betty Ford clinic .. and kick yourself in the ass!

Bilal

P.S. for best results, make sure the best friend is someone you’ve known and trusted your life with .. for 10+ years.

P.P.S. should you develop any physical ailments during the course of your business partnership (i.e. cancer!) .. be sure to point that out to your best-friend .. so that he can use that as perfect timing to completely FUCK you over!